*What Attachment Parenting is really about* ...& how AP can be ridiculed is truly beyond me. Shouldn't this be how everyone parents? If people rebel against gentle parenting, no wonder the world is in the state that it is. Too sad. :/
Say it and then do it. Calmly and consistently follow through by picking them up, removing them from the situation, and moving them to a more acceptable activity. Distraction can be a great co-tool here - "hey, let's go check the mail!"
"It has been said that absolute power corrupts absolutely. That is true in our homes as well as in our world. To raise peaceful humans we need to be peaceful humans. There is no other path to peace than peace." L.R.Knost