Children pick up some of the actions & beliefs from the narcissistic parent. This does not mean you are narcissistic. A child tends to repeat the pattern of how their parent acts without even realizing it. Your environment growing up is imbedded in you until you do something about it.
Hiding, cheating, betrayal, stealing, projection, using family as your pawns, gossip, cultish beliefs, false sense of accountability ego trip... all enough to make your wife look like the crazy one. More
Please, empower yourself. I know it's tough, I've been there. Just look in the mirror everyday and tell that woman, no matter your age, that you deserve better because you are valuable. You are worthy of better treatment. Ignore anyone who tells you differently because they are the ones who are unworthy of YOU.