and then i notice how a group of them act and get all paranoid so i test it out the next day to see how they'll react and they usually are normal and even friendlier than i though im like UGH WHY BRAIN
Haha. Totally true for ENFPs if very stressed or not mindful with developed Fe. I used to do this all the time. Weaponization of Words. That hurts because the expressions become an extremely clear mirror reflecting back the characteristics of another.