I think sometimes I believe that forgiveness is a miscarriage of justice. But really not forgiving destroys both you and the person who made the mistake. Forgiveness should be the core thing that all of us focus on. Just that alone could change the world.
your husband should ALWAYS come first before your kids, your parents, friends, work, etc. He is second ONLY to God. Your kids will grow up and leave you for their wife/husband, and you'll fall behind them...your spouse is with you "till death do us part". Keep your priorities in check & you will live happily ever after! :)