This is EXACTLY right!! Nobody knows but you, then when something happens between you...Nobody believes you! They think he's so nice & he's already lied & destroyed your rep about how mean you are to him behind your back & you didn't even know it!!
…for those who may have been confused. And if you are a normal, minimally decent human being you don't destroy even the people you utterly despise. Self-protection is okay; initiating kidnap, trafficking, extortion, hostage-taking, deception, framing, lies/disinformation campaigns, stalking, intentional humiliation degradation, blackmail, hacking, spying, violence, theft, terror illegal acts of cruelty corruption are not.