What a perfect way to describe what happened. Those crumbs kept me hanging on. That glimmer of hope. But they will turn it around and make you out to be the crazy ex even though they made you that way with their lies and empty words.
Original poster says, "I emphasize the blame-shifting all the time when I speak with individuals frustrated at their Narcissist's inability to simply admit wrongdoing. It's important to understand that a Narcissist will NEVER simply own up to any bad behavior or wrongdoing on their part willingly and anything you take issue with will ALWAYS somehow be the fault of another. A Narcissist will even blame something they said or did RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU on someone else.
When you start to recovering from narcissist abuse, you will change. You might freak everyone out. People who are used to the "old you" may be caught off guard. It allows you to set up boundaries and let others hold their own pain and anxiety instead of you taking it on for them. You become more assertive and confident. Allow this to happen. The dust will settle and everyone will adjust.