Children feel encouraged when they think you understand their point of view, which is a great way to create connection. Once they feel understood, they are more willing to listen to your point of view and to work on a solution to the problem. Remember that children are more likely to listen to you after they feel listened to.
Children do better when they feel better. - An excerpt from the Audio CD Building Self-Esteem Through Positive Discipline by Dr. Jane Nelsen
Children under the age of three do not understand “no” in the way most parents think they do. (And a full understanding of “no” doesn’t occur magically when the child turns three. It is a developmental process.) “No” is an abstract concept that is in direct opposition to the developmental need of young children to explore their world and to develop their sense of autonomy and initiative.