Exactly...until you've lived this life, you have no clue what an abused person is dealing with and therefore no right to judge their decision to stay. Put the onus on the abuser, not the abused. NO ONE deserves this type of treatment. Whether they stay or leave is irrelevant.
And this is why I refuse to be friends with people who are mutual friends with my family of origin ... being friends with people who are either stand on the fence between us, or take their side, are people I know I cannot have 'in' my life. ~ Saoirse Quill