The explorer is Trilian. She went away with a man with two heads in the middle of the night just because she wanted to. She also went through all of these things all by herself in space and became very successful and had a child from an alien sperm bank.
“Whatever you are physically, male or female, strong or weak, ill or healthy, all those things matter less than what your heart contains. If you have the soul of a warrior, you are a warrior. All those other things, they are the glass that contains the lamp, but you are the light inside.” Cassandra Clare