6 Signs of Narcissism You May Not Know About How can you recognize the fragility behind the narcissist’s grandiosity? Published on November 7, 2013 by Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. in Evolution of the Self | Psychology Today
One of the most reliable ways for narcs to feel good about themselves is to invalidate, devalue, denigrate others. So they’ll focus on others’ flaws (whether or not they really exist) rather than acknowledge, and come to terms with their own. They can’t tell where they end and you begin, viewing others as “extensions” of themselves,existing primarily to serve their own needs—just as they routinely put their needs before everyone else’s even their own children.
One of the biggest signs and traits of narcissism is Hoovering. This technique usually appears after months, even years of no contact. Narcissists will try every trick in the book to get you back into the codependent cycle.