Rather than criticising me for shutting people out and hiding away, why not have a look at the people who have driven me to it. Blood might be thicker than water but often it's a noxious substance and one's family of origin can be a pit of vipers.
We all want to trust and believe that we can share ourselves...all of ourselves...and know that our partner won't run away/shut down/criticize/look down on/or defend against. When we don't trust that we tend to abandon the parts of ourselves we think will trigger any of those responses. So we internalize or hush ourselves. We convince ourselves out of honoring our voice. We tell ourselves that only happy/positive emotion and experiences should be shared. We support a belief that people…
If you can't be bothered...do not be bothered when neither can they. Often we shut people out so they will prove to us they will stay. And just as often, that is not how it turns out...we end up not having to worry about considering anyone else because they are no longer there to consider.
Listen to your heart; start recognizing when something isn’t good for you & be strong enough to let it go. A person can only waste the time you give them an opportunity to waste. Stop trying to open doors for people who constantly shut you out. Make sure the interest is shown in the effort, the talk is supported by the actions, & the trust is earned through the consistency.