The Seven Stages of Grief. Whether because of divorce, death or discovery of adultery, the grief is the same. You need to deal with each stage and allow yourself to feel what you are feeling. Once you accept each stage fully, then you move on to the next stage. And it is alright to revisit a previous stage. The loss and/or wound will always be a part of you. Trust me, though, as hard as each stage is, things do and will get better in time.