Toxic people will hurt you and then try to make you feel bad that you are mad or hurt or upset. It's known as blame shifting. Instead of taking accountability for their own actions, they blame others for having feelings. Abusive people do this
How to apologize correctly. This is phrased in the context of marriage, but I think these rules of thumb are important for any kind of relationship with another human being. it's a harsh, but nice, reminder to be a better person.