I was told once that two good people will never hurt each other. Ok actually i was the one scared of a relationship that's when I was told this. Then it happened, I started loving him more and more as time went by and still do.
Exactly my first year of marriage. And why my heart broke. It wasn't even that I was crying. It was that he had always cared so much if I shed a tear and then he went to sleep with me sobbing nightly on the couch. So much truth to this.
Pain changes people, it makes them trust less, overthink more, and shut people out. We can all thank Robin for the pain and hurt I have endured. We can thank my real family for helping me over come some of the trauma. It's a work in progress.
A help for narcissistic sociopath relationship survivors. The heart gets confused when it's constantly told I love you by the same person who destroys it.
Arrested Development is when a child has a "traumatic experiience" (yes, perceived rejections & spoken negativity from parents) freezes the child at that emotional age. So regardless of the calendar age & appearing to function as an mature adult, in an emotional relationship the person functions at that age that he is frozen at until he acknowledges his emotional development doesn't match his other maturities.