“In waking life it is impossible to say those things you never said to your father before he died. And, in waking life, it is often impractical to track down a former mate and talk about unresolved issues. In lucid dreaming, however, it is possible to achieve resolution. Of course, the absent partner is not really there, but the missing person’s representation in your own mind is present. This is enough, since it is your inner conflicts that you need to settle. Dreams do not raise the dead.