After 15 months of therapy, I've discovered that people in a marriage hurt each other. It's all about coping skills. We both handle hurt differently, but we're both equally culpable. Pointing fingers won't solve the problem.
This is so powerful, and so true of people these days. I've made mistakes, but I own them and never blame anyone else. People like to focus on the mistakes, so why dignify their ignorance with the truth.