One way to weed out the passive aggressive people in your life... They always say the first part but somehow turn the second part into your fault... And you'll never ever hear the third part... Beware!
And, of course, the conversation where YOU apologize for being passive-aggressive, and then promise to work on it (and actually mean it).
Passive aggressive behaviour creates distance in a relationship because issues and problems of an increasingly bothering nature are not discussed. Always communicate. Your relationship will thank you for it.