Everything the narcissistic mother does is deniable. There is always a facile excuse or an explanation. Cruelties are couched in loving terms. Aggressive or hostile acts are paraded as thoughtfulness. Selfish manipulations are presented as gifts. Criticism and slander is slyly disguised as concern.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is characterized by a long-standing pattern of grandiosity (either in fantasy or actual behavior), an overwhelming need for admiration, and usually a complete lack of empathy toward others. People with this disorder...
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In other words...it's LYING and making certain that someone else takes the fall for whatever the Narcissist has done.Narcissist Mothers use this as their favorite defense and diversion strategy. Along with the Silent Treatment for punishment and manipulation or control, you can think of Scapegoating as their other weapon in a two pistol set designed to wound and destroy when needed. ~ A.N.