When you start to recovering from narcissist abuse, you will change. You might freak everyone out. People who are used to the "old you" may be caught off guard. It allows you to set up boundaries and let others hold their own pain and anxiety instead of you taking it on for them. You become more assertive and confident. Allow this to happen. The dust will settle and everyone will adjust.
Don't engage.. That was this morning, with insults about her eating habits, telling her she "ate a cow" and then arguing over his request to have her an extra night and suggesting she (a 4 year old) should decide! I REFUSED TO ARGUE IN FRONT OF OUR CHILD. BUT THE ABUSIVE NATURE OF HIS BEHAVIOUR IS VILE.