I agree, you are not responsible for them. especially because they'd rather engage in victim blaming, rape culture, racism, misogyny, transphobia, homophobia than the truth. you don't need such small people in your life.
Either that, or they've actually been brainwashed that intensely by patriarchy as to not even be aware they're practically standing in fire. Honestly one of the worst things I've ever seen is women supporting the shackles that patriarchy binds them in, or worse, they don't think they've experienced it so they don't care if other women do. And often times, they’re also the women that reinforce negative patriarchal influences on men as well.