"I suffer in silence. I don't cry in front of people. I can smile despite how shitty things are. I will always put you before me. I leave my phone on at night just in case someone needs me. It's because I love everyone else more than I could ever love myself. What can I say, I'm just a screw up with a good heart."
Just because infidelity happened to you doesn't mean it happened because of you. Great article defining various levels and effects of betrayal on the psyche of the 'cheated on' partner. A great description, although the term isn't used, of the 'narcissist'.
WHEN YOU FIRST START A RELATIONSHIP LIKE ANYTHING, IT’S FRESH & NEW. EVERYONE ALWAYS LIKE FRESH & NEW. SO WE WANT TO PLAY. WE WANT TO SEE THEM. TALK TO THEM. GETTING TEXTS FROM THEM MAKES YOU SMILE. BUT THERE ALWAYS COMES A TIME IN MANY RELATIONSHIPS THAT THERE IS A CHANGE. WHERE AT ONE TIME THEY COULDN’T GET ENOUGH OF YOU. YOU NOW HAVE FALLEN DOWN THEIR PRIORITIES LIST. THEY HAVE WORK, HOBBIES, FRIENDS. AS YOU GET OLDER THE PERSON MIGHT HAVE CHILDREN. SO WHERE DO YOU ...
Keep your mouth shut in other people's circumstances and don't accuse. Only an idiot gets themselves involved in other people's issues. Don't make accusations when you don't witness. Just because someone tells you something, doesn't make it true.....
one day, it just clicks. you realize what's important and what isn't. you learn to care less about what other people think of you and more about what you think of yourself. you realize how far you've come and you remember when you thought things were such a mess that they'd never recover. and then you smile. you smile because you are truly proud of yourself and the person you've fought to become.
Take chances, take a lot of them. Because honestly, no matter where you end up and with whom, it always ends up just the way it should be. Your mistakes make you who you are. You learn and grow with each choice you make. Everything is worth it. Say how you feel, always. Be you, and be okay with it.
You'll have moments when you feel like a lion, and moments when you feel like a mouse. Just know that no matter how you feel, you still have a heartbeat and a soul worthy of love, so learn to roar even when you feel small, because you are more than the feelings you may have. - T.B. LaBerge