Yes, this sounds familiar. I've learned all kinds of things about myself since my ex left. I was amazed to learn about the affair I had, because it came as a really big surprise to me and the guy I was supposed to have had it with. Also that I got 70% of "everything" - no, wait, I got 80%. Dammit, hang on - I got 90% of everything. The story has changed so much, I can't keep up.