A good use of 3 strikes. If someone lies to you once, if they seem sincere, you can give them a second chance. If they lie to you a second time, be on your guard. If this person lies for a third time, end the relationship immediately. This person IS untrustworthy!!
but you know what? It was never about someone else. I always asked because I said I wouldn't compete, I would leave and not interfere. It was really more about hiding them and dishonesty, and not even enough respect to say what was going on even with all the chances. The person being controlled was ME, not you. You were trying to control me through fear of you leaving if I said anything. Its how you toy with men, which you seem to hate so much, even the one that genuinely cared.