This is me. Finally. It's not about being independent or not having someone to share love with. It's not about trying to find your other "half" to make you whole. You are already whole. And you don't need to be with anyone to see that. Be happy with who your are now.
And why is that. Not for my ex, but for everyone around me. Why do I feel so alone in a crowd. The one time I feel truly happy is when I'm around the one I'm beginning to love, or perhaps beginning to want to love is better. And why can't I tell her so, despite how I feel. It's just fear, fear of rejection. Because if she says no, I'll again be broken.
I get so many messages from women who are single that don't know how just embrace their singleness. The truth is, if you can't be happy alone you won't be happy when you're not single. One of the most empowering things I did, was go get coffee alone, shop alone, and go on trips alone. You grow from these experiences and you will truly understand who you are as an individual. You'll never have to struggle with getting lost in a relationship if you embrace your own company.