10 rules for fighting fair by The Gottman Institute. All at once may be too much... Match to your clients and pick a couple of these that have biggest impact and work on those but only after you have properly assessed the problem and motivate them to change through a redefinition of the problem and increasing hope.
Einige Verträglichkeit kann die Heirat beginnen, aber Verhandlungs Unterschiede danach werden beide stärken Sie Ihre Ehe und besser bauen Ihre Kinder. (some compatibility may begin the marriage, but negotiating differences thereafter will both strengthen your marriage and better build your children.)
Research from The Gottman Institute has revealed that conflict discussions invariably end on the same note they begin. If you start an argument too harshly by attacking your partner verbally, you will end up with at least as much tension as you began with - if not more. A Soft Startup, which involves how a partner raises an issue in the first three minutes of the conversation, is crucial to managing relationship conflicts. (www.gottman.com)