You are in charge of you. Gen Patton said: Never tell anybody how to do something, tell them what you want done and they'll surprise you with their ingenuity. That said: Go out and be you go for what you want, never accept defeat as an option. WIN!
Immanuel Kant's famous phrase that is indeed in my opinion absolute. A simple yet highly overlooked philosophy by many as displayed by the horrific acts harm and violence we have encountered in our time.