In my specific experience I’d replace control with NEGLECT. PERFECTIONISM, BLAME, DENIAL, NO TALK RULE and INCOMPLETION definitely apply to me. Over the years UNRELIABILITY has manifested itself in that I could never foresee where and how my actions or words would trigger the next mega-drama in my family. Finally, MYTH-MAKING is what the rest of them do to convince themselves that they actually believe in family values. NinaO.