Toxic characters know no boundaries. Those who are unthinkingly careless and callous need to be kindly taught (if willing) how to care and be considerate of others. Those who care enough will show a willingness to learn. Many relationships can be saved by a willingness to learn and change for good on both sides. Toxic behaviour is about selfishness. And when selfishness is not curbed by the one "acting out" in selfish ways...distancing is a healthy and wise option.
"It takes both sides to build a bridge." - Fredrik Nael
The most widely used shoulder-arm in the Confederatre army was the British Pattern 1853 Enfield rifle-musket because it was accurate and well made. An important factor for both sides was that the .58 caliber bullet used by both Union and Confederate forces was interchangeable with the .577 Enfield. Its overall length totaled 55 1/4 inches and weighed about 9 pounds. Hundreds of thousands of Enfield rifle-muskets were successfully smuggled into the South by the Confederacy during the war.