This is me. Finally. It's not about being independent or not having someone to share love with. It's not about trying to find your other "half" to make you whole. You are already whole. And you don't need to be with anyone to see that. Be happy with who your are now.
I had two longings and one was fighting the other. I wanted to be loved and I wanted to be alone. - I finally found someone who the only time in my life helped defeat the desire to be alone which was life changing. Then she made a choice that showed that I meant very little to her and now I think the desire to be loved is now forever deafeted and it has taken a huge toll on my soul.