To keep sane when thinking about what to buy for your first apartment, everything should be broken down into two categories: the stuff you absolutely need, and the stuff you merely want but can live without. Here's a list of first apartment essentials.
Kitchen Must Haves. I looked a while for a list like this and didn't find one at the time. But I really like this one. I'd include the exact same things on my list with a few additions - a glass or ceramic 9x13 baking pan and a Crock Pot!