Do you know how sometimes you have a bad day, and it may cause you to be a bit short with your kid or partner? And then, later, you go to them and say: I am sorry I was short with you, I was just worried/tired/busy/other, … We all do that, right? Well, not the toxic person. They live in a blissful world where nothing is ever their responsibility. When bad things happen, it is because the world is against them! When they are raging abuse at you, it is because YOU made them angry.
Explain your anger - This agrees with the Bible which tells us to use self-control (cooling off period) and to bridle the tongue. By waiting awhile we are able to reason with someone who has offended us and find a peaceful solution.