relationship over religion. Religion teaches only you can't be perfect, through relationship we learn who he is and how to be more like him effortlessly. You become whatever you focus on, focus on his character instead of what he's not.
"He shows much more of Himself to some people than to others-not because He has favorites, but because it is impossible for Him to show Himself to a man whose whole mind and character are in the wrong condition." ~ C.S. Lewis