Looking to what we want to see happen rather than focusing on what we're afraid of creates a positive and productive dynamic that elevates your discussions and provides room to HOPE that your future will be good.
I said to someone I know, "I don't know why this hurts so much". And she said, "it hurts because it matters". And that was a huge thing for me to realize. That there are things in life that hurt. And they hurt because they are important.